Women Reveal How They Like To Be Approached (Hint: Pickup Lines Are Mostly Useless)
Gathering the courage to approach that cutie at the grocery store only to get shot down can be brutal for your ego. But there could be many reasons behind a woman’s rejection: She might already be taken, she might not be in the mood for a conversation, she might just not be interested — something you should respect without insisting or harassing her.
That being said, there are times when your approach is the one and only problem. And without veering into cringeworthy pickup culture territory, there may be ways to tweak your approach in order to successfully engage in conversations with attractive women you cross paths with.
Wilde: Sure, before I was married, I gave a random a chance. In fact, I met Himself in a pub on campus. He was a bit fluthered, and I wouldn’t recommend his opening line because so much depends on the way he said it.
Very formally and extending his hand to shake mine, “Hello, my name is Himself, and I have a penis.”
It made me laugh, and I shook his hand and said, “Good evening, My name is Wilde, and have the opposite and complementary equipment.”
He asked if I’d have a drink with him. I told him not that evening, but gave him my number. I figured if he remembered me the next day, I’d give him a whirl.
I do have to say that shouting at me on the street is going to get men nowhere.
I was married to my (now ex) husband for 11 years (together for 14) and I met him on the subway.
Women can smell creepy a mile away. If a man is just himself, keeps a bit of safe physical distance, is funny, and makes conversation that doesn’t sound like a cheap line then he may have a shot.
Joy: He has to be of similar attractiveness. If he is a 4 and she’s an 8, sorry, unlikely she’s going to be interested. Nobody wants to hear that, but it’s true.
He has to talk to her like a PERSON, not just an object of desire. Be relaxed, talk about something you’ve noticed you have in common, like you’d talk to anyone.
Be relaxed and confident (not to be confused with disinterested/distracted and cocky).
I think it’s not about what they say. It’s rather subconscious decision if I like him or not.
Morgan G: I’d advise to approach lightly, without expectation of any more than a polite phrase or gesture in return, or even the occasional deer in headlight speechless trance. Don’t pin your hopes and dreams on a random encounter as most will not lead to further engagement. Understand the odds, don’t over-invest, and don’t under, any circumstances, take any rejection personally.