Does Weed Make Sex Better? Porn Stars Weigh In

Now that marijuana is becoming decriminalized and even legalized across America, discussions about sex and weed have become more prevalent. In a new WoodRocket video, porn stars answer the age old question: Does marijuana make sex better? What about alcohol?

According to a recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, drunk sex is associated with decreased sexual inhibitions and increased sexual regret. Physical sensations can feel dulled, and sessions can be sloppy and clumsy. (File that under obvious.)

Stoned sex, on the other hand, correlates with increased sensitivity and more intense orgasms. The downsides, according to researchers and weed smokers alike, can be increased paranoia and vaginal dryness — despite the fact that weed lube is actually a thing. The final sweet news in the study for Mary Jane lovers everywhere is that weed sex tends to be between folks who know each other, and is often used to bring them even closer in a smoky, intimate paradise.

So what do porn stars have to say on the subject? Just like the rest of us, some get down with ganja, while others keep it on the straight and narrow. Of those who toke, these are marijuana’s sexual benefits and drawbacks:

1. It Relaxes You

Weed helps folks relax and get into the mood, and it makes some guys extra horny, Trillium notes.

2. There’s Heightened Sensitivity

April O’Neil is a fan of smoking and sexing because marijuana can inspire a level of “open-mindedness” and increased sensitivity.

3. It Dries You Out

As an avid smoker, August Ames describes one tiny drawback of weed and sex: cotton mouth. If she wants a BJ to happen, coconut oil is a must. (The same goes for vaginal dryness, too.)

4. It Depends On The Kind Of Weed You’re Smoking

Sativa, which produces a kind of energized, alert high, is in Kenzie Taylor’s opinion the kind of weed that’s best for sex. Indica, on the other hand, might make you a little too chill to perform properly.

5. It Might Tire You Out After

If you like to take a snooze after a session, then marijuana is probably going to add a lot to your sexperience, says Marley Brinx, because it can definitely make you sleepy post-pounce.

The dating mantra for people who give zero f*cks

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If you’re searching for “The One” – you’re fucked.

Since long before Jerry McGuire uttered “you complete me”, we’ve been obsessed with the idea that there’s one person on earth who is capable of giving us everything we need.

Our Soulmate.

And it’s not simply that our Soulmate exists. That person needs to live in our city, speak our language and be tall dark and handsome. Obviously, the odds are not good.

You might be thinking “not me, that’s crazy”; but it is you! Whether we like it or not, it’s the tale we’ve been told. It’s imprinted into our childhood stories, TV shows and movies.

We have this assumption that we’ll meet the perfect partner. That flawless human will fall head over heels for us. Then they’ll love us despite our many imperfections.

What could possibly go wrong with that? …right??

It’s this double standard that causes so many relationships to spiral into a series of failed expectations, insecurity and eventual resentment.

So often I hear couples say they’re disappointed when their partner doesn’t live up to their high standards of communication or in the bedroom, but they’re also hurt when their partner questions their own flawed actions or intentions.

It’s a lose-lose situation. A constant see-saw between disappointment and feeling like you’re letting your partner down.

It perpetuates our cultures chronic illness of feeling like we’re “not enough”. Doing enough, being enough, sexy enough, thin enough, funny enough, smart enough…

To be clear, “you complete me” is not cute – it’s clingy and pathetic.

I’ve replaced the idea of a Soulmate with this mantra.

It has given me the power to give zero fucks.

Whenever I start to get sucked into the expectation spiral, I repeat this to myself. I say it outloud. My friends and clients have started using it and it has a powerful effect on so many relationships.

It keeps people from giving away their power in a relationship too quickly, and also keeps their own ego in check.

It’s a phrase you can use in those moments of indecision. When you’re questioning whether to go on a second date, break up with someone or propose this mantra acts as a guidepost when the options become overwhelming.

I am a whole looking for another whole.

You are not looking for your better half. No person could ever “complete” you because you’re already whole. You’ll fit a partner into your life, but you don’t need to change a thing.

This is the mantra that has kept me out of bad relationships and guided me towards unexpected, but amazing men.

Wrapped up in this phrase are many of the ideals we hold true when we have clarity of mind, but forget when we’re caught in an awkward dating moment, or during a stressful relationship talk.

  • You don’t want a relationship built on co-dependency. Gross.
  • You’re not alone – you’re just single.
  • You’re actually happy being single.
  • You have something unique to offer someone.
  • You understand everyone is a work in progress.
  • It’s not your job to fix people, just to love them.
  • Mediocre relationships aren’t for you. You’re one badass whole looking for another badass whole.